Coaching for the Chronically Dissatisfying "Not Quite Right" Life

Once there was a fish. Respectable. Hard working. Kind. Intelligent. 

A very fine fish, really.

But it had been trying to live in a tree.

Sound familiar?  

I have a warm spot in my heart for "misplaced fish" as well as inhabitants of The Island of Misfit Toys, (you know who you are), curmudgeons, the "off beat", chickens who really want to be brave, and the reluctant non-conformist who wonders why they just can't be normal like everyone else.

Do you:

• Often feel like you "aren't quite like everybody else" and are you struggling to define what success and happiness look like at this point in your life?
• Find yourself rejecting the lifestyles and life choices of those around you while second guessing the decisions you are making for yours?  
• Have a nagging sense that something is wrong with you and wonder if you are just a chronically dissatisfied person? 
• Start and stop and start and stop new ways of "getting your act together" ultimately ending up a little paralyzed, inhibited and unfocused as a result?

Think of it this way, living like this is like living with a low grade fever.  You aren't really "sick", in fact you may be quite successful, but you don't really feel "well" either. You don't really qualify for a psychological diagnosis so a therapist won't be much help but still you know you are not taking care of yourself and living the kind of life you could be.  Stop debating it and trying to talk yourself into thinking everything is better than it really feels to you.  If you aren't happy, you aren't happy and you know, happy might look good on you. You might get more done and maybe make a few more friends while you are at it (and the family and friends you already have might like you more, too). Quit trying to fake it. None of us are buying it.

So, would you like an intelligent, practical, intuitive, non-judgmental, well educated, warm, funny and caring woman to lay everything out on the table with so you can set a course for your life you can trust?  No cheerleading or sugar coating here (I've been called "brutally compassionate"), just frank discussion about what is going right and what is going wrong in your life. And let's not forget all that stuff that looks right but feels wrong, but not always, and really things are mostly okay, so why are you complaining?

Call 630-562-1877 or e-mail to set up a consultation so we can talk a little truth, okay?

Curious why other people have hired me and what they thought about the experience?  Here are actual scenarios and feedback.

Grief, Loss and Transition Support

It can happen at any time in life, but certainly happens with particular frequency (and intensity!) in midlife.  Questions for mortality, aging parents, our own aging and health issues, major career decisions, marital tensions.  You name it, midlife seems to contain all of it.  Maybe decisions you made earlier in life (or didn't) are coming back to haunt you.  Maybe you have had a loss that has changed the entire context of your life and now you need to redefine who you are and how you are going to live from now on.  Maybe you have gotten to a point in your life where you are realizing you can't "have it all."

I can help you:

• Re-establish a sense of meaning in your life after a significant loss
• Re-structure your life after the context of your life has changed
• Re-orient your life after your priorities and values have shifted

Call 630-562-1877 or e-mail to set up a consultation

COLLABORATOR FOR HIRE: An Answer to your prayers?

In-person "Life Taming and Transformation" Marathon Coaching.  Chicago Area.

Are you beyond desperate and overwhelmed in the middle of a chaotic business or home environment without the slightest idea how to even begin to get control of it?  Are you doubtful that phone conversations alone are going to help you and do you secretly dream of finding a genii in a bottle who will come in and just deal with all those stacks of clutter and unfinished business you have been avoiding? 

Well, you may be right. Phone sessions may not be effective if your life is paralyzing you.  I happen to love cleaning and de-cluttering. That’s not a typo.  I love it. I come from hearty blue collar stock and I’m not afraid to work so if you really want no-holds-barred handling of your life, complete with someone who loves this kind of thing so much she will be laughing, dancing and maybe even singing while we work side by side to tame your beasties, I’m your girl.  Not only that, but I’ll even bring along my mind, my intuition and all that insight that you would get from me over the phone. The coaching that will happen while we deal with your environment will be even stronger because I’ll get to see you in your native setting. And, since I know we sometimes become our stuff, I’ll bring my compassion along, too, because there can be all kinds of reasons you have hung on to things or avoided issues that now need to be handled.